In his new book, The Lost Art of Good Conversation, Sakyong Mipham uses the basic principles of the Shambhala tradition – meditation and an authentic belief in the inherent wisdom, compassion, and courage of all beings. At a time when noise and technology fills our days, Mipham offers us a new lens of connecting. The Lost Art of Good Conversation provides a map to help us to listen and speak more mindfully with loved ones, co-workers, strangers, and even ourselves. Providing guidance grounded in his spiritual traditions (he is head of a worldwide Shambhala community), Mipham explores effective and intentional aspects of conversation
Most of our days are spent cutting through all the noise, cell phone distractions, and social media. Rather than connect deeper with these tools, we have disconnected from ourselves and those we love. Mipham offers practical advice to help us increase our attentions spans, become better listeners, and strive to appreciate the people around us. In a world of digital resources and connectivity to social media and email, we are all in constant connection with one another. Then why are so many people feeling burned out, distant from loved ones, and experiencing deep loneliness? The path starts with recognizing our own goodness and cultivating meaningful conversations. As Mipham says, “Mindfulness is the act of noticing. It is not engaging in like or dislike; it is paying attention to be alive. Mindfulness begins with awareness of feeling.”
Good conversation starts with kindness and compassion. It is the experience of syncing our mind to our heart (rather than a computer). What if the truth we are seeking, the connection we are longing for, and the wisdom that exists in our relationships starts with recognizing our own goodness? If we are willing to look at the deeper truth of ourselves – it starts with a good conversation. Sakyong Mipham provides inspiring ideas and practical tips on how to be more present in your day-to-day life, helping us to communicate in ways that elevates the dignity of everyone involved.
“When we are gentle with ourselves, we can open our hearts to others.”
What is quite powerful in this book is how Mipham gives examples of how to share words as a meeting place. We can stay in the place of what connects us rather than fear the unknown and perhaps areas of what we view differently. “Finally, what makes good conversation great is wisdom – the wisdom to see your world.”
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.