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What Are Your Thoughts on Reciprocity?

Friday, January 21st, 2011

“There is an ebb and flow, a giving and receiving inherent in all life forms. When you tap into the cycle of reciprocity you are relating and connecting in a universal exchange that simultaneously occurs within you, with others and with the wider universe.

We choose the words, actions, and beliefs to share with our self and others, creating a constant ripple effect in our world.” ~A Course in the Heart of Life, Judy Kinney

I was reading my course work from an on-line class I am taking, “A Course in the Heart of Life” and the word reciprocity jumped off the page. I have spent the past week sending numerous emails to an organization that was unyielding in their refund policy. Once I got past my rants of anger, I realized it was about reciprocity. The situation was about a fair exchange. Everything in life is an exchange. We flow from a place of giving and receiving and when that comes out of balance, we come out of balance.

Reciprocity is how we create and move forward. It’s an exchange of energy of love with our self and others. It creates community. And when it is out of alignment, it separates us and creates fear (and anger/resentment). And for me, reciprocity puts relationships over results and makes for greater contributions in the world.

What are your thoughts on reciprocity?

Mary Anne

P.S. The outcome of the refund situation is that I have agreed to take a larger refund with the understanding that I will be taken off the organization’s list and not invited to any future events/conferences.

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Life Is Speaking, Are You Listening?

Thursday, November 4th, 2010

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” –M. Scott Peck

As I stood in the subway car, a lady started talking to me and I realized after a few moments I had stopped listening. She was complaining about the delays and it seemed like she would never stop talking. By the time I reached my office, I realized I heard what she was saying, but not really listening to what she was saying.

There are days when listening seems more difficult – due to the noises outside and all the chatter going on inside. Some of my best listening happens when I am using my whole body – when I can let go of any response of what I need to say and just listen.

As Peter Senge says, “To listen fully means to pay close attention to what is being said beneath the words. You listen not only to the ‘music,’ but to the essence of the person speaking. You listen not only for what someone knows, but for what he or she is. Ears operate at the speed of sound, which is far slower than the speed of light the eyes take in. Generative listening is the art of developing deeper silences in yourself, so you can slow our mind’s hearing to your ears’ natural speed, and hear beneath the words to their meaning.”

When we are truly listening, we become present to all that is around us. Noise can transform into sounds. Listening requires us to pay attention and gives us the ability to have greater focus. Are you willing to listen below the noises?

Practice: Close your eyes and listen to the sounds surrounding you. Can you hear the leaves, the birds, or a sunrise? What is your heart saying?

And remember the advice of Native American seers: speak only half as much as you listen.

Life is speaking, are you listening?

Mary Anne

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What Is Your Emotional Map Revealing to You?

Wednesday, October 13th, 2010

While working with a coaching client, she expressed how she was feeling much more freedom in her life. I asked her what had changed that allowed her to feel this freedom.  She had the insight, “Living and coloring outside the lines has allowed me to live the way I want rather than what others want. I started to notice how I was feeling and paying attention to my heart.”

Emotions are often the map to our thoughts. In the Frame of Mind Self-Guided Course, there was an assignment about paying attention to feelings. “Paying attention to how you feel is most important because your feelings are a barometer for the types of thoughts that are dominating your mind. Your thoughts produce your feelings. Do you want to feel differently? If yes, then you need to change your thoughts.” How are you paying attention to your feelings?

As my friend Judy Kinney says, “Are you open to the idea that the condition of your life reflects the quality of your attention?” What are you paying attention to these days?

What is your emotional map revealing to you? What’s dominating your heart lately?

May love be your guide and light show you the way.

Mary Anne

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Yes, It Gets Better

Monday, October 4th, 2010

As Ellen DeGeneres said, “One life lost in this senseless way is tragic. Four lives lost is a crisis.” The tragic wave of suicides among young people who have been targeted because of their sexuality has prompted many news stories. “And these are just the stories we hear about. How many other teens have we lost? How many others are suffering in silence? Being a teenager and figuring out who you are is hard enough without someone attacking you.”

Many of us felt alone and isolated in high school as we tried to figure out who we were in the midst of so many physical and emotional changes. Hopefully, we had someone we could speak with to let us know we are perfect just the way we are.

For many youth struggling with their sexuality, reaching out can be a frightening idea. In his video, Dan Savage reminded young people, “It Gets Better.” It’s a YouTube project where he and his husband sat down in front of a camera and told their stories about their horrific high school experiences and, more importantly, how they both survived, thrived and have gone on to live happy, healthy, joyful lives. As Savage said about the project, “I felt it was really important that, as gay adults, we show them that our lives are good and happy and healthy and that there’s a life worth sticking around for after high school.”

This is no longer a gay issue; it’s an issue of saving our young people from suicide. Homophobia has consequences — we are losing too many young people everyday. We cannot afford to lose one more young person to suicide.

What will your message be to a gay youth?

Yes, it gets better.
Mary Anne

If you know of a young person struggling with their sexuality and/or in need or suicide prevention, please visit the Trevor Project.

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What Is The Cost of Intolerance? Lives.

Friday, October 1st, 2010

As I read the reports of the tragic suicide of Tyler Clementi who leapt to his death from the George Washington Bridge after allegedly having his sex life broadcast all over the web, I am saddened by the disregard for basic humanity and dignity. More information will come out about this story, but the invasion of privacy and the bullying that takes every day is unacceptable. In the meantime, I send my thoughts and prayers to Tyler’s family as they mourn their loss.

According to the Associated Press, there have been at least 12 cases in the U.S. since 2003 in which children and young adults between 11 and 18 killed themselves after falling victim to some form of “cyberbullying” — teasing, harassing or intimidating with pictures or words distributed online or via text message. And according to statistics, gay and lesbian youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide.

I personally know the pain of wanting to hide my sexuality and even having suicide as an option as a teenager. Luckily for me, I was never humiliated or harassed.  I didn’t experience the hate and intimidation that so many of our gay youth face.

Every time we destroy another human being in any way, we destroy something far greater than one individual or group.

What is the cost of intolerance? Lives.

Mary Anne

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Are You Ready to Do More Than the Status Quo?

Tuesday, September 14th, 2010

In an article in the Harvard Business Review, Seth Godin speaks about Redefining Failure. Godin says, “We think failure is the opposite of success and we optimize our organizations to avoid it.” In other words, we treat everything we do as if it ought to be a non-failure. He thinks we have narrowly defined failure. Godin continues, “Failure creates urgency. Failure gets you fired. Failure cannot stand; it demands a response. But the status quo is simply embraced and, incredibly, protected.”

There are so many places in our life when keeping the status quo seems easier than going with something new that may fail and we might learn from that. What if we redefined our definition of failure so we could experience something new, make changes, and create new opportunities?

Stepping up with a new idea and failing and then making changes is far more successful than doing the same thing with little or no result. I think of my friend Joe who will move to the West Coast in January after twenty years in New York to live his dream or my friend Clayton who invests in promoting his LGBT organization by offering gift card incentives to homeowners.

I am looking at how I could redefine failure. I could stay with the status quo and continue doing really good work in New York or I could expand into Provincetown and/or other global parts of the world and see this as an amazing chance of growth—even if there is some failure.

I am ready to do more than the status quo. Will you join me?

Mary Anne

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The NYC Subway Is My Teacher

Monday, April 19th, 2010

After more than 18 years of taking the NYC subway, I still am learning lessons of patience and opportunity. I take the subway into Manhattan daily to go to work. It’s pretty tedious and most days I drive on autopilot to park my car near the subway. I hop on an “express train”, which takes about an hour to get into lower Manhattan from the Bronx. I have become accustomed to delays due to “train traffic”, “sick passengers”, “signal malfunction”, and “police activity” (and other delays that are not announced, but am sure are for good reasons). Just recently, the MTA announced that due to necessary track work, my express train is going to run local in both directions until August 2011. This translates into an additional 15-20 minutes on the train (despite the MTA saying it would mean an additional 5 minutes). For the next year and half, my train will run on the local track.

I started this local commute a few weeks ago and realized I was standing a long time. By the time I got to my office, I noticed I was more tired and cranky. The first thought was to blame the MTA and their track work. Then I blamed the train for being too crowded. I was getting ready to go onto a new rant, when I stopped myself and asked what this slower ride could teach me. I realized that this slower commute was an opportunity. I had more time to read, to draft ideas, to scan a blog, to nap, and to meditate. With the train moving slower, I was able to notice the sunrises and sunsets that I normally just blinked through.

Then I began to list other ways I could commute into the city. I could take the express bus or try a different train route. The NYC Subway became my teacher. It taught me that I could slow down and that I have options. How many times have I thought I must do something one way and that’s the only way it could be done? And why am I in such a rush to get into the city? Is slowing down such a bad thing?

The subway ride is teaching me to slow down. I can look at other areas of my life and see I have options. And most importantly, I don’t have to always be on the express track.

Are you willing to get off the express track in life and head onto the local?

Mary Anne

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Time to Eat the Frog

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

When I first heard the phrase, Eat the Frog during a workshop with Janice Hoffmann, I was both hesitant and interested. Curious to hear more, I leaned forward to find out what Janice was talking about. Essentially, Eat the Frog means starting your day by tackling the most challenging thing on your list. Develop the habit of doing the hardest thing first – the thing you put off to the end of the day – the one that never gets done. It’s about creating space in our day to do what we love. If we put off eating the frog, it’s always there, waiting for us.

We spend so much time on smaller tasks, we run out of time to do what might need the most inspiration or energy. We multi-task in the hopes more can get done and then wonder why we feel so exhausted. There was a time being able to do ten things at once made us feel successful. But all we need to do is one task a time with full attention. Eating the frog is about performing a task that is crucial for our growth, our business, or our life, even if it is not fun. In the end, eating the frog gets us farther.

How do you prepare for your day? What do you really want to pay attention to and complete? Successful people know how to eat the frog. Entrepreneurs eat the frog every day – they take risks. Listen for the most important task, write it down, and do it. Think about the last time you wanted five more minutes of sleep or will go for that walk tomorrow – how did you end up feeling?

We tell ourselves we don’t have enough time. We may not have time for everything we want to do, but we always have enough time to do everything we choose to do.

Go ahead – Eat the Frog!

Mary Anne

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Loving Our Worth—Priceless

Monday, April 5th, 2010

Every now and again we question our worth—our value. We spend time thinking about our own value and our value in relationships. I recently had an experience where I allowed thoughts about my value with a friend get in the way of my friendship. I convinced myself that my friend was moving on to bigger and better things in her life, building her business, and on the path to finding her soul mate. I translated this to mean she no longer “needed” me and I doubted my value in her life. I questioned our friendship and in doing so devalued both of us.

I allowed my fear to get in the way of our friendship. It’s like the story of the fifty-dollar bill. A workshop speaker stands at the front of a seminar and holds up a fifty-dollar bill. He asks the audience who would like the fifty-dollar bill. Almost all the hands go up. He lets them know he will give it to one of them, but first takes the bill and begins to crumple it into a ball. He asks the audience again, “Who wants this bill?” Many people still raise their hands. Next, he takes the bill and places it on the floor and grinds his shoe into it.

“Now who wants the bill?” the speaker asks. People still raise their hand. He smiles and tells the audience that just because he crumpled up the money and stepped all over it, it did not decrease the value—it’s still worth fifty dollars.

Many times, we feel like that crumpled bill. We make mistakes, we say things that can be hurtful, make poor decisions, and allow ourselves to feel unworthy. The reality is that no matter how crumpled, stepped on, or out of sorts we may feel, we always keep our full value—that which is love.

Love is about reciprocity. Love doesn’t worry about being liked and having approval.  Love exists within our inabilities, imperfections, and faults—and our value never decreases. Relationships built on wanting to be liked will waiver; relationships built on loving our worth and the worth of each person we meet—priceless.

Peace, Mary Anne

Dedicated to Rev. Joyce Meyer for reminding me of my value & letting go.

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What Informs You?

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

Have we all lost our minds? It’s the only explanation I have for the savage way some people have responded to the new Health Care Reform that was just passed (i.e. throwing bricks into people’s windows, making threats to families of Democratic members of Congress). Obviously, many people have strong opinions about Health Care – as they should, it’s our health we are talking about. But my question is, whose opinion do we have? Is it our own educated opinion or is it the opinion of talking heads on the television or radio?

How do you become informed? Who do you listen to? When you are listening, are you even aware of how your body is reacting? What informs you? If the health care conversation is causing great stress and struggle, anger and resentment, what could you do to become calm and centered in whatever actions you may want to take?

I have been curious to hear all sides. I want to know what people like about the Health Care Reform and what they don’t and why—not just generic comments, but specific ideas. It’s about being curious, being educated, being open, being willing to listen, and most of all, being civil.

Who you are will inform how you will respond. How do you want to BE?

Here is to civility prevailing over violence.
Mary Anne

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